Endless war of its own kind —–

–– War simply between Nations —

To say, across the globe, at one time we witness war like situation or real war between two Nations, hither and thither. Geo politically, it’s it’s kind of war being fought on borders or in exaggerated form inside the territory of any of these two combating Nations. Generally, this kind of war is tackled in one go intensely and with main and might and often  after this situation both countries conciliate and come to detente. This detente often goes for  a long period of time and in certain cases it has been observed, such two hostile Nations  never get engage in war like situation for long decades to come.

Here, significant point is, a country is always consists of its large volume of population of human beings. Even the apex body of a Nation too is run by a selected group of people and every war is an out come of certain “crisis points,” raised by this eminent group of people. It’s hereby cannoting that war is always generated by men. But apart from this level of large scale of war, a man is destined to get involved in an another war like situation whole through his life. Whether he intended it or not. In this war, canons of war also applied.  In consonance to those canons, this war also comes to a halt, but after a lapse of time resurfaces intrinsically.

                                               The different kind of war

This  assumed conciliation period may be of certain hours or days or months but not beyond  year under any condition. This kind of war is doomed to burst out in every house hold. I give  the name to this type of war,  “Endless War.” This war is fought in every house since the holy premise of the house always is the battle field of this war like situation, and main combating parties of this war are husband and wife. We notice this  sort of pitch battle in every house hold and it surfaces up in every condition either after certain habitually fixed time or in uncertain timing.

The weird outcome of this  household war between husband and wife is terrific in no- nonsensical way. Here, the wife being a woman always surfaces up as a “victim“( no matter whether husband had fault or not) and also emerges up as a victor. The causes of this war may be innumerable and trivial either. For instance, the disliking of wife on being intervened by husband in her kitchen’s domain. The couple having suspicion about the conduct of partner about extra- marital affairs or some tiny issues related to the children’s affairs and etc etc. Weirdly, on some occasions, the  cause of bickering too may be on the issue that why husband dared to step on the wet floor that freshly given a mop by the wife.

                             Women on advantageous ground

In this “homely war”, woman always gain a sympathy from other people by virtue of her being physically weaker than her husband(Man.) But the whip of her tongue is always so effective truculently that  man even after his giving all efforts can not emulate a woman in querulous war.Once I tried to seek the answer of this querulous  ability (might) of tongue of women from an experienced, old age, learned gentle man. He revealed the sensational informative tips by saying, ” The Nature has endowed this “tongue” as a body part with high resilience and strong muscles to every one.  But the talent to apply this tool perfectly with a “farsightedness,” Nature has blessed to women only in additional proportion. The god has deprived men to use it in the way a woman applies to.

The another aspect of this “homely war” is, when a man is under the bout of anger, a dark curtain falls down on his mind. His power of recollecting of facts of last bickering attenuates, but on the same , memory power of woman begins to work intensely.Under this tug of squabble, wife can can make her husband to know that ten years ago he too had the bickering on this same issue. Or she can insist that husband’s mother (her mother in law) had cast aspersion on her about not  being efficient in house hold affairs in the initial days of domesticity. She always remains harnessed with all facts and details of previous squabbles to blame the man. But the husband hardly can recall such trivial things, it’s not embodied in his temperament. All this puts him to a shameful situation before the wife.

                             Wife using the “tongue as a special tool 

A wife as a woman too can ably use her tongue as a specific defensive tool.  She can have altercation in loud shrilling voice to attract the attention of neighbors. This raising of voice is a “signal” to man, ” You stupid! I can put you to a shameful situation before others, if you keep on torturing me further.” Often, this shrill is enough for man to get shrunk back to his skin. But on various occasions, a noisy bickering suo-motto brings the neighbors onto the spot of war. The next door neighbor suddenly appears on the spot to make quarreling couple to stop the squabble. This neighbor is also a “husband” of his wife either, who also timely and untimely is a “sufferer” in the same way.

But in efforts to cease squabble between couple, memoirs of his own humiliation in hands of wife back in his own house vanishes. Apparently, he seems to calm down the situation but his obvious sympathy always remains tilted by the side of woman. Whilst, as per the given parameters, he should have favored the cause of his male fellow. Behind this biased behaviour, the “gender attraction theory” plays the major role. There also goes a saying, ” A man always prefers his own children and neighbor’s wife.” On certain occasions, the combating wife may take recourse to the assistance of her brothers by sending them SOS on phone call.

Amazingly, her brothers too rush on the spot of crisis. Here, they either intimidate the husband ( their brother in law,) or give a thrashing for torturing of their sister. Astonishingly, these brothers too happened to be husband who ever confront the same type of bickering back in their home and threat from the brothers of their wives.

A man is always a man. Never he concedes in his social circle that he always been defeated in “homely war” in the hands of wife. Out side in open circle, he boasts of his manhood. When he does so, he forgets, he is boasting before those men who are also husband and they too always loose the battle back at home before their wives.

                             Men’s false claim and good outcome

But look at the generosity of other people of the society, they appreciate this fake manhood, since on tomorrow when they are supposed to make a false claim of their own manhood, they too may need an appreciation in return from this man as part of social circle. A woman always remains fully prepared and on guards for this “homely war.” She incessantly on giving efforts for future’s squabble. She intelligently succeeds in earning the favor of children in her favor. Perhaps, every been aware of this fact that a woman always uses her children as a protection wall before husband. Surprisingly, in this “tug of war” children too stand by the side of the mother (wife.)

This sort of “endless war” is capable in producing good results for the society at large. By virtue of the status of a husband, man seeks peace of mind out of the house and agreeably leaves the premise of the house early in the morning. Out on the working place, he happily keeps himself engage in his working. The meritorious achievements  in this world  are produced by such badly tortured men out of the house. The great philosopher Socrates is considered first most learned, pedantic victim in this list. No one can dare to deny the outstanding contribution in the field of knowledge of this wife’s tortured man (husband.)

This tussle between husband and wife keeps on going endlessly whole through the life. Even, in case if a man dies before wife, the sepulchral crying of woman too don’t forget to accus the dead man. In a resenting mode, wife weeps out before the dead body by accusing the man, ” oh dear husband! You left the world leaving behind children and their liabilities on my part, how I will tackle all this?” Means, she always remains firm not to loose the war even after the demise of husband! ( The end.) Penned by — Vinay Pharasi —–

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