Basics of friendship…..

The gathering of people around us, in the name of social circle generally comprised of friends, kinsman and other acquaintances. The unit of this social circle is “man. In this social circle, there is another circle, named “friend circle.” Within that, we find some ones knitted closely, with one another. Even with kinsman, if we are friendly with them, it evolves in a cordial bond. Since, being friend they ably catch our moments of pleasure and sorrow.

And, accordingly they behave to sooth us with their given efforts. This element of “efforts” to sooth the mood of friend, is quintessential of the friendship. This element make us to put off that cloak of formality with which we often walk in our social circle. In friend circle we behave freely without any reserve, enjoy the moments like a free honey bee in the nature.

                         Factor of common friendship 

If we go through the study of, ” journeys of people in groups.” The analytical outcome certainly will denote, the factor of common friendship amidst members of group. Amazingly the invisible cord of friendship is so mystic. Despite of different individuality, persona and opposite thinking, we happily adjust ourselves in the group and co ordinate in a moderate way. So the basics of friendship is “coordination in all situation.”

There may occur friend circles with specific nomination. A friend circle with political inclination is a good example of this. Not certainly, all members of this group be the supporter of “only one and the same party.” They may be with different political ideologies and parties. Like wise “business class” friend circle or “literary circle” may exist. But the basics, mentioned above ever exist there. We may experience a group with people having multiple inclination. For example, a friend circle may be formed of people from business class, literature and politicians like a club.

                                                A common hobby

If we observe microscopically, the main link may be, a “Hobby” common to all. To say , there liking for having drinks to gather, playing cards or chess in consonance. Even, extrinsically an anomaly may be there, but the liking to a “hobby” makes it analogous. In this circle, you may find one or two members when sitting alone, they look fraught with fatigue and inanimate. On being, with in the gathering of friend circle, they are brimmed with energy and alacrity. They are found shuffling cards vigorously, clinking glasses with overjoy.

You just ponder about this, and in the process tread backwards to the ancient period of human evolution. Just imagine, about the first group of primeval men who launched the first expedition for hunting, naturally had had a cord of basics of friendship. The key to organize people in shape of “group” or “tribe,” might be the feeling of insecurity. the element of “collective security,” that forced people to get knitted into a group; but behind all this were the basics of friendship. The predilection for one invisible element that infused with in the “group” or “tribe.”

Later on the same “cordiality of friendship” induced man and woman to live the whole life with one another. This helped “family institution” come into existence. Meant, to make friend and befriended is now intrinsic in human genetic code. this phenomenon, in the long journey of evolution kept on growing on and on, and will in future as well. Penned by– Vinay Pharasi…