Long ago, in my teen age, I happened to go through a novel, whose title was somewhat, “when men wooing go.” Simply it described, when you are not driven by your mind but by your heart, you are in peril of being exploited. Still on this day, the mystery has not been solved, when and how we shift our behavioral stand in its conduction either by heart or mind ? What impels us to behave us in that way? Medical science simply endorses this phenomenon to the hormonal secretion. But what factor stimulates this hormonal secretion still is mystery.
Amorousness
The topic of “heart and its being amorous” has ever been a persistent issue. Since the day of inception of man coming into existence, he has always been amorous towards opposite gender. Indubitably, this phenomenon is bound to occur in every creature upon the earth. This phenomenon tends to increase the number of generations. But in creatures other than human beings, this drive is seasonal. This means, all other creatures have got a seasonal mating but human beings are all time player.
Here, this article is not concerned with other creatures, since, they are not to be involved in this discourse. Prior to heading on, I would like to attract the reader’s attraction about a Japanese study. This study reveals, so many diseases we encounter in our life, are not outcome of our food habits but majorly from the stress we are forced to suffer from. It’s an emotional factor. This simply means, in general, diseases which at the beginning seems so common become cause of grave serious ailment sprouting from the stress we put upon our heart. These may be the issues like high blood pressure, sugar or other correlated diseases of acidity, depression etc. All these germinate from the stress we put upon our heart.
To me, if we look microscopically into the matter, problems begin our stepping into the teen age and onward when our sexual hormones become activated. From that day onward for a long period of time to come, a person remains under a persistent stress, knowingly and unknowingly. Whole through the life, a man voluntarily or involuntarily remains engrossed in this amorous drive. May be not physically but in fiction ever. Ever and ever his mind loiters in the amorous drive, when he has nothing to do.
This process in fact is “wooing go a woman.” Now I lightly cite two examples. One from the present time of “social media” in vogue and another relates to an old era and its weightage accordingly of this phenomenon of wooing. Today in the era of social media, by sitting at a distance of hundreds of miles, a boy is linked with a girl with a proposal of love. Both persons seem at a safe zone. Often such proposals are accepted, meaning thereby, the proposal of love from this end is accepted by the girl on the other end. Now boy seriously gets involved or indulged in this affair. The tragedy in fifty percentile is, the another person as a girl on the end of this trajectory is supposed to a be boy in deed, with a fake ID of a girl.
Here on this end, with the depth of his heart he is fallen in love, his appetite is dwindling. Whilst on the another end, the boy with the fake ID of girl is making fun of all this. Here boy as a genuine lover is under stress, being caught by ailments of high blood pressure, acidity, bad appetite etc. On the contrary, the fake ID Holder at the end of trajectory is feeling hilarious. His appetite is on full swing, asking his paramour to recharge the phone bill, send some gifts online which may suit his needs as a boy. The stupidity on this side of lover is that he is blind in love, his purse is flattening in size and the other side person is prospering. This is instance of wooing, generating acute stress. Genuine lover is succumbing to the stress.
Love of bygone era
Another instance belongs to the era prior to the decade of 1990 of last century. There everything was apparent on the spot. The boy supposed to be falling in love was “ascertained” of the fact that in all probabilities his love story may not be a successful one. It could not be realized on the ground because of the conservative social system. But again, the same phenomenon of hormonal secretion that was the natural process of the body, he was to be enslaved by that. In that infatuation, he was to await his most adorable girl stationing himself at a point from where she daily used to pass through. This often happened with college going boys. This categorical love in fact was of the kind, “one way traffic”, though the girl too happened to take notice of all this but nothing had to be done.
The entire college life of such a Romeo was destined to pass as a lover in waiting only. If some one mustering the courage succeeded in initiating further on this relation into a friendship; that too was not certain to get realized into a wedlock. For in that era, Indian society riddled heavily with castes and sub castes were to oppose such marriage. The majority of such love affairs were doomed to die untimely. Despite of the failure, the boys in that era, though suffered from a frustration for a while, but never succumbed to stress. They already had had an anticipation of such ending. That made them mentally prepared.
Although, all this sound a comical one and does not help to solve the riddle of “wooing a woman” by a man. This entire process is so intricate and non stoppable one. Everyone is destined or doomed to fall prey to this intricacy and amazingly there seems no clear cut solution of this issue.This World has got its own format in this way. There is a term “infatuation” that in itself may be helpful to describe this “wooing drive.” Penned by– Vinay Pharasi…..
