Appeasing, an arduous task – As an individual you can not afford to make all people happy, though you can easily cause them feel evil collectively. It may be expatiated that to make someone cheerful you will have to create a suitable situation for the purpose. For instance, to appease a child you may offer him an inflated colored balloon. But, if you offer the same balloon to the child’s father with the same intention, may it infuriate the father or he may take you as a stupid in resentment for considering him a child. A meager possibility is, with a mature display of etiquette he accepts your balloon. His this token of gesture, naturally will be of the natural indication, as to take you as a dullard only.
The most arduous task in this world is to make someone feel happy. For that, you will have to fulfill the personal standpoint of that person, for every person has got his or her personal viewpoint. A wedded couple in whole through their life time live as a spouse to one another, even they persistently carry on a complain for each other. Each of them resents that my life partner never in life time cared for my goodness or felicity. The master never comes up satisfied with the services of his servant. Vice versa a servant never would have contentment with the perks paid to him for the services rendered.
A father may have protest against his son, for the deeds of his being involved in the social activities which father ethics don’t approve. Meanwhile the son may have strong disapproval for father’s conservative thinking. Whilst, we are unable to fulfill those parameters of felicity within the framework of the “family institution”; how can we afford to make society happy at large. Yes, people at large may be happy with your demeanor, if you accept their valid or invalid impositions silently.
In contradiction to this, the parameters of this world to feel annoyed or resentful are well established far easier. Any one is at liberty, to be offended by your any trivial deed or petty statement, it is his or her right, whether you done that deed or make the statement innocently and unintentionally. Often it happens, you are relating something important to “A”. And “B”, who by chance appears there in person, takes the incidence personally, as if, it was related to indicate him
People are given to be offended on trivial things – It has become part and parcel of their deportment. Why is so? Reason is simple! nowadays people are growing poor in the element of granting pardon to others. To be laden with “forgiveness” you need the virtue of “endurance,” and for that, you need the element of “discretion” . Amazingly this element of discretion is present in every person, but this needed to be applied properly, which we don’t. Then what message all this carried? This is phenomenal and tended to in all span of time. It straightly annexed to to our “natural instinct” and this instinct as a result generates “tendency”.
Man is given to feel “felicity” or “cheered” only when his personal benefits are discernible to him. Otherwise the element of “jealousy” is predominant or rather inherent in his person. So that, he sometimes is not worried by his personal problems but by finding the happiness of others. Oh god! How come, this fellow managed to earn a big deal of money? How come, the son of the neighbor succeeded to secure a permanent government job?
Just throw a glance around in your vicinity and after taking people in confidence, inquire about their opinion regard their neighbors. A majority of them you will find infested with this sort of “negativity”. Eventually, it seems, god has sent us on this planet to feel ill towards others only. Don’t you feel so?…..penned by —vinay pharasi.
